Why we cannot uplift others
I´ve gotta joyful, loving heart and I´m an empath, so I always totally enjoyed it to see people thrive.
The stranger it has been to me, that a lot of people first have been totally amazed by me, to than later start strange games, what normally ended our relationship.
If you are a loving empath who tries to uplift people, what never really works out, this article might be quite helpful to understand what´s really going on in these cases. And it holds a much better so(u)lution at the end.
First of all: We can not uplift someone, who feels down. S/he has to decide to stand up on their own.
If you ever have seen cases of co-dependency, there is always the one trying to help the person that is down. In the end, they are maybe both down, because of the energetic feeding and games that are taking place. When you finally leave, the one who is believing to be down will stand up…or, in most cases, find someone else, who tries to “help him up”.
The same dynamic is taking place when you try to uplift someone. It´s the same game, just a smaller stage. You cannot do anything for a person, but inspire them. If they do not get ignited by your spark, there´s no way to help them, without burning yourself out.
Ok, I will share a typical scenario, that had replays in different variations in my past: I meet someone, we become friends, as I´ve got something that they are missing within themselves. They love my joy, my kind heart or my inner stability. Whatever it has been, they see something inside of me, that they want to have too. Well, when I looked at them I saw their inner light, their being. I knew that they can have that too, whatever it is they see in me. They are one with all that is, they can be whatever they want. I tried to show that to them, to encourage them, remind them. Well, that´s been the moment when things started to go wrong. When comming closer with my light, all they did was focus on their shadow on the wall, getting bigger and bigger. I´ve been too much for them, so they tried to control me, own me, belittle me or turn in some way against me. And in many cases my “friends” became my hidden enemies, even waiting for a weak moment of mine, to bring me down, using everyhing they could find. They did fight me, because they somehow thought me to be above them. They have been the ones believing to be down. No one can change someone elses be-lie-f. People are creating their reality. You can not uplift them, when they think they are down.
And my role in that scenario? I did also only fool myself, believing I can do for people what they are not willing to do for themselves. And as I felt that I am too much for them, I tried to be careful. I´ve got a 12th house sun in capricorn, shining behind the scenes and therefore been targeted from hidden enemies. I´ve been hiding my light and they did hide their darkness until both collided. It´s been breaking my heart a million times – until it just couldn´t, as I understood what had taken place. They did not fight me, but their own shadow, caused by their own light they saw reflected in me and that they couldn´t open up for.
The more funnier and pleasant occasions have been people telling me how much I have evolved, while I thought that I am who I have always been. Well, actually they did evolve and therefore could also see more of my light. But that´s of course very beautiful.
See, when someone has to be uplifted, someone is above them, what is a total misconception. I told you I always knew that we all hold this divine spark. Noone is above. But I did dim my light often, to make it easier and more comfortable for others, to be around me. I wanted to be accepted by them, but just had to learn to accept myself, all facettes of me. That´s why I met so many people with a hidden darkness, as I´ve been hiding my light.
The so(u)lution for all who want to help others is the following:
Stop uplifting, but instead inhabit and shine your light with all your might.
And yes, it might be that a lot of persons will turn their back on you as they cannot stand your shine, but they are at the moment not a match anyway. You would just distract, and struggle with, each other. Won´t help no one.
Shine your beauty with all your might, it will attract the right ones and you will inspire and ignite your divine sparkle endlessly as you are a match and mirror to each other.